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New Year’s Resolutions are not a way to create change, and generally, I think the concept is highly flawed.
It’s About Motivation
First of all, today’s modern society is motivated by deadlines. People will be disciplined because they don’t want to be late. Think about how motivated students would be if the teacher said, “Okay class. The project needs to be started by next Thursday.”
I’m sure someone will start their project before Thursday, but only that one overachiever. Everyone else will do what they want.
Let’s relate this to January first. It’s pre-January 1st, there are holiday festivities, and cookies, and candies… yum.
“Well, heck guys, we don’t need to behave because it’s before January 1st. We don’t need to. Except for those overachievers.”
Don’t you see how this is a bad way to go? Combine that with our attitude of gluttony around the holidays, and it’s even worse.
Attitude
I’ve heard people say, “Christmas only comes once per year.”
And that’s the wrong attitude. It comes every year, and it hangs around for about a month. Last year was the first Christmas where I didn’t OD on cookies, and it was nice.
Besides slacking before the start time, the lack of deadline gives no real motivation and no real goal before the deadline starts.
Be Stronger, Have a Goal
I don’t make New Year’s Resolutions. I think they’re dumb, if you couldn’t infere.
My New Year’s Resolutions are backwards. I make January 1st the deadline for my goals. This is way more in-line with human nature. First of all, it’s deadline driven. People in the United States are deadline driven creatures. So I’ll make a goal like “lose 10 pounds by January 1st.”
By having that goal, I manage to steer away from too many cookies during the holiday season. It works for me, anyways.
Working toward a goal is different that working toward a behavior modification. A typical Resolution will be “go to the gym 5 days per week” or “take the stairs everyday at work,” and those would be great behaviors, but as goals, they are inherently flawed.
Gradual Change
Humans have problems making sudden departures from routine. Routines are known, routines are safe, and routines are efficient. A typical New Year’s Resolution is sudden and sharp. People go from eating holiday junk food to eating diet food, counting calories, and going to the gym. ALL AT ONCE.
Are you kidding me? The reason we like routines is because they are efficient. People simply don’t have time to make all these changes at once because it’s so inefficient and requires so much active thought and planning. They have to make time to make their lunch, go to the gym, and count their Calories at the end of the day. Working toward a goal is gradual.
Also, because it is gradual change, you’re building up to make it a positive habit that you incorporate into your life. Come January 1st, you’ll have these positive habits already in place. You feel good. All you have to do is keep up the good habits. Easy-peasy.
Being gradual, it’s also inherently more flexible.
All or Nothing, a Poor Approach
Resolutions are set up as an all or nothing rule. Goals like “go to the gym 4 days per week,” or “take the stairs everyday but Monday at work” are flawed because if you can’t go to the gym one day because of an emergency, then you’ll say “Well, unless there’s an emergency.”
It’s a slippery slope, and while you won’t track all of the exceptions, after a couple months you’ll say you’ll go unless there’s an emergency, you have a big deadline at work, the kids want to go to the mall, you have to get groceries, you have a networking event, and eventually, because you’re really tired from a long day.”
Now you go to the gym when it’s convenient, which it never is.
Allowing for Change
Since the habits to reach the goal are set by you, they are responsive to new information.
Maybe running 5 miles each day is your new habit, but you’ve learned that your feet hurt after 4, then you can change your goal to run 3 miles each day and do 50 burpees. It works better for you and is more customized than the blind decision of making yourself do something that you think will be good for you, but you’re just not meant to do it.
Goals and Changes versus Resolutions
Quit making resolutions. They might work for some people, but we’re all human. We’re not resolved at all. You will break them, and you will loose track.
By making a New Year’s Goal, you are setting a deadline, and you will be working towards that deadline. Not only that, but you will be establishing strong habits in a gradual, flexible way.
In this way, we can significantly improve our lives, and it won’t be significantly rearranging our lives like a New Year’s Resolution. Let’s make New Year’s Goals instead.

What is your New Year’s Goal?
Today was stressful day at work. One thing I like to do after a stressful day is go for a run outside. Stress is bad for the body, do I figure I’ll balance it out with something healthy.
Normally, I’ll run to Noodles or Target and run home, which is about 3 miles. I haven’t done this for a while.
But tonight I decided to keep going and run past Hamline Avenue to see what was down there. I mean, you know a lot of areas, but you drive past and don’t really notice as much like you would running.
So I went to Lexington. And you know everything there when you drive: it’s a White Castle.
I kept going.
There, I found a BBQ place. I wasn’t really hungry, but I thought I’d check it out.
This place featured a lot of pork, in the flavor as whole headed pigs you can BBQ. If you couldn’t guess, but this point, I was beyond the typical areas in Saint Paul. Those end at White Castle, pretty much.
I was at University and Victoria. Do you know what’s on Victoria?
Oh yes–Cafe Latte!
So I took a jaunt south though the neighborhoods less traveled, and eventually hit Grand.
At Cafe Latte, I had a truffle and water. I took an awesome picture I was going to post it with the comment “I run do I can eat what I want,” but the phones 4% power wasn’t enough to save it…
Then I ran down Grand, back to Fairview, then back home.
It was a long run.

Next time, I’ll have to remember to train so I don’t do this cold turkey, my water belt, and nipple tape.
Nights come earlier. Often enough, by the time you get home, it’s dark!
That makes you choose one of three things. The easiest thing you can do is give in to the early onset of your Christmas Cookie Weight, meaning not run at all. This is obviously an unacceptable option.
Next, you can run inside on a treadmill. That’s great if there are no other options.
But we most of us who run usually like to actually go somewhere.
So there’s a few tips to ensure that you’re safe.
The Obvious
First of all, be smart about where you run. I’ve read quite a bit, and most articles recommend that women not run with music. This is for their personal safety against aggressive men. But honestly, when I run at night, I don’t listen to music. For me, it’s so I can be fully aware of my surroundings. Cars coming, emergency vehicles, or anything else that might impact my run or run path.
Run Form & Location
As much as I’d love to run on trails or the sidewalks of Summit Avenue, I usually don’t have the time or motivation to go there. That means I’m running on the sidewalks near my house.
Most sidewalks that are not on the main roads or around a lake, sidewalks aren’t always perfectly smooth. Basically, the sidewalk tiles don’t see eye to eye with their neighbors….
Generally, this is barely noticeable. However, the way I run on trails gives me very little clearance, even an inch of unknown elevation change could cause a trip, as I learned last fall when running after dark.
While generally there is enough street lighting or city lighting to see the sidewalk, there are quite a few areas you won’t be able to see. While one may be tempted to use a headlamp, as a fashion adviser, I think it would be a little awkward.
Another feasible option, and much less attention-getting, would be to slow down. Of course, then you’d have to slow down, and really, why don’t you just walk? Heck, if you’re going to walk, why don’t you just just stay home and eat some cookies?
No, you should run with your toes first. While you might think that you’d look funny running on your toes, but you shouldn’t worry about how you look running. I mean, you look totally normal, since it’s kind of how a sprinter runs. But really, you shouldn’t ever ever care what people think of you when you’re running.
But the reason you want to run on your toes is simply the motion of your step. By leading with your toes, your foot will no longer be be moving forward as it hits the ground. It will be moving in a downward motion, so if there’s a change in elevation or a change in terrain, you don’t step into the new terrain, but you step on top of it.
The motion on your next step doesn’t rely on gripping the ground, so if it’s sand, ice, or water, you’re not going to slip. Instead of pushing the ground back with your foot, you raise your leg up and forward for the next step. This allows for absolutely no tripping. It makes it do no matter what the elevation.
So really, until there’s ice, you have no excuse for not running.

Many of you might wonder, why do I go to the Fair so much? Do I really like crowds that much?
Well, honestly? YES! But that’s not all.
I mean, sure it’s convenient. It’s close enough to run there, so I don’t have to deal with drama of parking. But convenience isn’t everything. Not enough to bring someone there three times each year (I only eat a lot one time… give or take….).
But I love the Fair because it lets be myself. Normally to run as much as I do, people would freak out. But at the Fair, it’s big enough (or crazy enough) that they don’t even care. Anything goes at the Fair. Heck, I’m surprised I wear regular pants when I go.
Or it’s big enough that I can get enough distance from them before they can realize that they’re freaking out. It’s kind of the same from my perception. If you want to change anything on the world, communicate. I’ll resist a tirade.
But it lets me do whatever I want. Even in groups, people can do whatever they want. For instance, during my first jaunt this year, I was on a Meetup group that wanted to sit and talk. The whole time.
So I just took off with someone who came from NYC just to check out the Fair. He’s MN friends weren’t around, so he joined the Meetup group.
Today was with my group. My group is awesome a prefect! Everyone goes off on side adventures, and while it might take 10 minutes here or there, everyone regroups and continued the journey together – I couldn’t’ve asked for a better group!
But getting back to how the Fair is awesome:
The Fair has live music everywhere, and always a dance floor…. well, at least a little area between the front seat and the stage….
During the day, sure, I “got the dance out of my system,” something I have to do when there’s a great atmosphere, live music, and time. I was at Dino’s work my group and danced a couple of quick dances, but they barely counted. It was install asks because the band just started again (crowd wasn’t warm yet), and I just wanted to impress my group.
But as I was leaving, there was a band playing Duran Duran. So naturally, I entered. I danced my way in, everyone smiling at my ridiculous dance-walk, as I surveyed the room. And then I saw her – the woman I HAD to dance with, and three woman I knew would say yes.
She was obviously a bride to be, celebrating with her sister at the Fair. Now if anyone sees me out and about at random dance floors, which none of you do because you don’t go out, you would know I always dance with the bride to be. While this prenuptial princess liked the idea of dancing, usually if they don’t, there’s helpful peer pressure from the wedding party to dance, plus I always quietly tell them I’m good at leading, and that she’ll impress her friends…. at least I will. Instead of stick around to talk to the lovely ladies, I just exit as quick as I enter. It’s a girl’s night out. I’m not going to mess.
But what I do, in theory, is I create stories. I create memories. Not for me, but for the bride to be. A lady’s bachelorette party may not be as crazy as some guys’, but I think everyone should have stories to tell, so if there was nothing besides that nice day, and provably that cake or champagne at a restaurant, they’ll be able to recall that time when she was dancing at her bachelorette party.
Small? Yes. Unlikely? Maybe. But it’s the details that make life fun.
The reason I started a nonprofit was the combination of two ideas.
1) Was Equity Crowdfunding was the topic of the entrepreneurial elite. I’m not an elitist. I wanted to bring Equity Crowdfunding to the crowd.
2) Minnesota is in dire need of glamour.
By making Minnesota a hotspot for entrepreneurship AND a little more glamorous, we could attract and retain a whole bunch of talent and capital. Silicon Valley was for the 90’s. It’s still the center for IoT.
But right now, things that are very Minnesotan, such as MedTech, Food Tech, and others, are being lost, as innovators move West, where the money is and where the action is.
Now is the time to change that. Hence the name, MinnesotaNow.
MinnesotaNow has published several articles, but not everyone bothered to read them.
Complaining that MinnesotaNow was charging $15 for a chance for people to meet Venture Capitalists, which it was not doing, is just as well justified as the guy who complained because it wasn’t a singles event.
Seriously people….. Stop being sad.
MinnesotaNow is about raising the bar so Minnesota is a more suitable environment for small business investors. We’re trying to get away from”Venture Capitalists” because the phrase is too marketingesque.
But MinnesotaNow is also another reading the bar for events. Every event is the same. That’s why it’s gala was different.
MinnesotaNow is also about the long-term. Capitalism seems to be short-sighted. MinnesotaNow is going to make more money for everyone. It’s just not doing to happen in this fiscal year! Be patient. MinnesotaNow is about culture. It’s about helping this be such a great small business environment, that the guidance, knowledge, assistance, and capital is available, so all people need to succeed is a great idea and hard work/discipline.
That’s what MinnesotaNow is about. It’s a nonprofit because the kind of return it’ll give I’d I’ve The course of years and years, and that’s not a good investment, and it’s a return for everyone.
Oh, and awesome events. Duh. But that’s because I’m in charge.
MinnesotaNow should write a formal now similar to this, but I feel like they’re not going to have time until at least their Community day is passed.
So I’ve finally figured out why I’m often single, and I’ll share it because it’s interesting.
Most of you know me as the spitfire professional with seemingly endless energy. Okay, with actually endless energy.
It’s true, that’s me in my true form. And that’s too much for anyone to join, for the most part.
But you’d think I could find someone. I’m out and around often enough. For instance, tonight I was at a meeting, and there were ladies-a-plenty.
But people want to chill. Do you know why? Because that’s how people build connection. By chilling.
I know this, but that’s not how I do it. I’ll have fun with people, and once I know they can keep up, and once we have enough shared experience, then I’ll open up.
This is a learned behavior. Moreover, opening up too early is generally not accepted. Instead of talking and asking the cliche bullshit questions that minnesotans do, I’d prefer to have shared expeience. I’ll find out all that stuff later, but really, I don’t need to know everything all at once. I’m patient. Try it sometime. …
So why don’t I chill when I’m with a group a ladies? The truth is, I just don’t want to date or know them on a deeper level. They all come across as low-energy or lame, so I’m just not attracted to them.

Tonight I went to my first day at the Fair in 2017. For many of you who don’t know, I usually go to the Fair three times each year.
I went there with an event hosted by Tam in the Fun In Or Around Uptown group. From all angles, they did the Fair very different that I do. Many of you know that I’m a doer, and I experience as much as I can in whatever time I have.
But in the group, I met lots of people. They were all content to be pretty relaxed. One person I met, Joey, was from New York City. He and I spent most of our time chatting. Believe it or not, being a New Yorker, or a traveler (whichever it is), he didn’t want to sit, chill, and relax, so he and I went on our own quest to find different foods.
Leading up to the event, even though it wasn’t my event, I posted the MSP Magazine list of new foods. It was an awesome article that had concise reviews of the new foods. So we hunted for a few of them while the group “hung out.”
It was interesting to hear some of his stories. For instance, when he was in high school, he made a program that made a mouse click at a random algorithm.
Now, in NYC, the stage is really competitive, so the only ways you can get on stage is by either selling 20 tickets, paying money, our filing a room. He said to impress a girl, his brother started doing standup.
His algorithm eventually made thousands of Myspace friends. By sending then all a similar message, he said he as able to fill three rooms of people with Myspace people just to watch his brother.
The story continued. He told me about how they started traveling to do shows on the East coast and just staying for free with different fans.
He told me that one house in Connecticut was a “vampire family,” where the members slept in coffins. He, his brother, and his brother’s girlfriend took turns being in guard at night because they were so creeped out.
He said eventually, Myspace changed to disallow many accounts like his account, and that he “took down Myspace (meaning made them close, obviously a fun extrapolation).”
We had conversations about NYC and life, and it was generally a fun time.
Joey is in town for just the weekend because he wanted to go to the Fair. He said his Minnesota friends he was planning to visit had to change last minute, so he came here for the Fair solo, found an event in Meetup, the standard “meet people while traveling” app, I guess.
It was a fun night, and hopefully we’ll go out in Uptown tomorrow.
Joey said he just got his passport, so who knows where adventures will lead?

After a hard day working, I got home, changed into shorts and a tee shirt, and decided to go for a walk. I’m writing this how it happened:
I started raining to the A Line, an efficient bus/rail hybrid that rocks Saint Paul. Walking was too slow, and I had no interest to just stay in my neighborhood, so I ran to the A Line station.
Well, the sign said there was 4 minutes until the bus, so I thought, “I can easily jog to the next station.”
And that’s what I did.
I guess the bus had some bikers or something, because when I got to the Minnehaha Station, the sign said 7 minutes.
“7 minutes before the bus?! I could run to University sooner than that.”
And that’s what I did.
The problem with doing things too spontaneously is that I still had no idea where I was going or why I was going there. I don’t need to buy anything, and I don’t need to eat because I packed food in my day bag (little backpack).
So I started going to the rail station. But it was 7 minutes until the next train, so I decided I’d jog to Target.
Halfway there, I realized that I didn’t need anything, plus I forgot my Red card.
“Turn back!”
So I ran back to Snelling.
“Seven minutes until the next bus? I can run to Dayton faster,” thought I.
And that’s what I did.
At Dayton, I hopped on the bus until Grand. Then I walked around and ended up setting up my tablet and writing.
It’s getting dark, so I should head home to work.
So this is what happens when I have time to go for a walk.
Thanks for reading!


Taken away by first tax season, then nonprofit founding, I was struggling.
After the gala, I had to catch-up.
I was busy, and there’s still a ton to do.
My firm decided to hire a colleague to help. Not another contractor, but a full-time employee. It’s great!She’s to the point where she can get things done.
*Whew*
Lots of work, work, work. Naturally, I needed to travel.
After long weekends in Amsterdam and NYC, then catching up from those, I can say “I’m back.”
Kickin’ ass and taking names. Kicking ass, because I can’t help it. I’m just me, and people say that’s what I do.
I’m taking names, usually for two reasons: either they’re a potential client or a potential friend, or both. Usually I just want to learn more about them.
So of what does ‘being back’ consist? This weekend is a good example:
Last night, I hosted a drive-in movie event.
Today, I went to a French conversation coffee event, now I’m at home working real quick. Then, I’m going to host an event at an awesome distillery. Before then, I’m working and maybe owing the lawn.
I will also likely go to the Uptown Swingout tonight, too.
Then tomorrow will be doing everything at home I didn’t do yet, plus getting everything ready for my gal to kick ass this week.
I was going to put the “I’m back” song by Aerosmith, but this video let me know it’s kind of inappropriate, so don’t watch this video. It’s not approriate: